Low - Somehow I got roped into doing the upgrades for 16 controllers around the country for this week, no idea what happened to the guy that planned and was meant to implement the project. This can also only happen between 11pm-1am, 4 a night
High - The overtime will be nice even though 40% goes to Tax.
Low: Students are back... time to break out the hard liqueur
High: Wife has a new job
Low: means hectic days. Having someone to take care of the house really helps, but money is money. The days of surviving comfortably on 1 salary are gone I guess
Ooohhh you have cats ok haha. Yeah DP and I share all the cleaning and laundry tasks and we stay on top of it pretty well. Our son is old enough now to also keep his room pretty tidy (he's a bit of a neat freak actually). We have someone helping us once a week for ironing and more of a deep clean which is really awesome.
I've always found with the people we know it's the people without kids that are doing nothing with their lives yet will always make jokes about having to get babysitters or pay school fees etc. I always look at them and go well wtf are you doing with your life, you go to work and come home and spend money on crap, you've achieved nothing.. I've found the ones with kids live a more fulfilled life as they want to experience things with their kids as a family, it pushes them to other things and plan holidays. If I didn't have my son I probably wouldn't be where I am in my life, it was him that pushed me to strive within my career, I'm the youngest person in my division with the most responsibility, without him I'd probably not be where I am because I was content with where I was as it was just me and the wife. Add the kid into the picture and that makes me want to give him the world which pushed me to push myself.
It's different for everyone of course but this has been a constant thing in my life with the people I know. I also earn much more than any of our single friends so spare money is not always a thing for people without kids, can work both ways
High - The weather has been amazing, sitting at home relaxing.
Extra High - 12 year anniversary tomorrow, apparently 90% of people who get together before their 30's break up, crazy.
@DP there is some truth to what you say, but in my circle, we have a good mix. Successful couples with kids and successful without. Do my wife and I waste money on nonsense, sure, but at the same time we are pretty sorted for early retirement and we have travelled a fair amount both together and before we got together in our early twenties. Unlike the majority of our friends with kids, our house is nearly paid off (six years after we bought it) and when my wife was unemployed for about two years, the fact that it was just the two of us meant that we lived pretty well on just my income.
Nothing against people who want the whole family life experience, but for many people these days it's just not something we aspire to, and finances do play a huge role in that decision.
That's good that you've recognised it and are sticking to your guns about it, because if you just have them for the sake of it it's just cruel to the kids. I've seen a lot of that and it breaks my heart.
Yeah for sure I just think there is a big misconception that kids add this huge financial burden on people, if people have that burden it's because they weren't ready to have children at that point in their lives. I don't think kids stop people from being able to pay off bonds earlier than people without kids. In my circle of friends only one other owns his house the rest rent, the one that owns his house got a joint bond with his sister. Having my son isn't preventing me from paying off my bond early and not having kids isn't helping him pay his bond off quicker either. It's all about how people budget and what they are doing with their income. An extra R100 a month towards a bond of 1 million over 20 years at 10% saves you R50000 and pays it off 7 months earlier, just R100, so it's really not hard for people to add in extra to do something like that, if such a small amount makes such a big difference.
Barley any of our single friends have travelled anywhere and the ones that have only travelled because their work paid for it. Again it's a completely different thing for each person which is why I am so against the concept of kids being financial burdens. There are people that are in the right place in their lives to have kids just as their are people who have kids that are not in the position to have kids as are there single people who are happy without kids and single people who want kids but either can't have kids or haven't found the person to have that life with.
The same is true for myself and Snow, we have lived off my income without issue with a child, many people can't do that and many single people can't even look after themselves with just their income, so again it's very different, so having kids may or may not impact people financially, it's just a case by case thing and should never be looked at as damn you have kids you got no money now sort of thing. People must also look at what parents are doing that may be impacting their lives, some may go look at him driving that old banged up car it's because he has a child, when yeah that may be true but no one ever stops to think that that guy is possibly sending his kid to a R15k a month school so he can have the best education he can give him instead of driving the newest BMW and sending him to a public school at R1k a month. There are so many different scenarios surrounding this that a blanket statement of financial burden is silly in this day and age.
Yikes ok take the double-decker! When I lived in the south, was driving around 80kms per day round trip, I never felt the distance or time, was just used to it as I had done it since the age of 5. Once I moved to the north and ended up doing a max of 12-20kms per day, i realised how much travelling and traffic took out of my day and just my energy levels. Nowadays, on weekends mainly, if anywhere is more than 5kms from my house I refuse to drive out there!
This all from a guy who used to drive from Lenasia to Bedfordview to pick up his then GF, then to Sandton for dinners etc with friends, then back to Bedfordview to drop off said GF and then home. That was EVERY SINGLE FRIDAY AND SATURDAY!
For sure. Driving used to be a LOT better. Used to commute from PTA for a while.
The roads are just to busy and people just suck so much exhaust.
I like living in the deep South, but the driving gets tedious
High - In case I haven't mentioned it, it's 12 years since mine and DP's first date. Apparently 90% of relationships started before age 30 don't last. Good to know we're stronger than ever.
Low - Have to be at work today instead of with DP
I had chronic migraines/headaches for years. Saw the doc, got a prescription for these tablets. Works 100%, but got to take it everyday.
Can get the name if you want, but like I said you need a prescription for them.
High: Have had almost a week playing with a RTX2070 for review. It's a really nice card and I wish I could spend more time with it/afford to buy one.
High 2: Getting to go to the Alita IMAX screening tonight
Low: Day job first
LOW: OMFG. When management stop even pretending to be competent. How the actual &^%%(* are you "caught on the back foot" by you own 100 year celebration and now there is "NO BUDGET" but all schools and staff must have events that show pride and even JOY at working here WTFWTFWFWFWTFWTFTWFTWFTWFTWFTFWTFWTF